I want to give you a lesson this week on the female anatomy. A recent study has concluded that women who know more about their bits have better orgasms. I don’t think a study needed to be made to figure that out! Of course it makes sense – knowledge is power and with knowledge about your nethers, you are able to control your orgasm a bit more, build it how you want it and appreciate it more! If what I hear is true – in that most women don’t know what happens down there – then hopefully a lot of you will learn a few new things about yourselves.
The first thing we all need to know is that no 2 lady gardens are the same. I am attaching a diagram of a lady’s genitals just in case it helps, but I am going to talk you through each different bit.
(I’m not going to go into the reproductive area!)
Mons Pubis is latin for pubic mound. It is the fatty tissue that develops through puberty then remains. The pubic mound varies in size with each lady dependent on hormones and health. It pushes the labia majora away from the pubic bone.
The clitoris is the one part of the body made purely for pleasure – anyone who has watched the Vagina Monologues will know this! It has at least 8000 nerve endings and can spread across a woman’s pelvic area affecting another 15000 nerve endings! (just for a comparison, the penis has 4000 nerve endings) Did you know that only one quarter of the clitoris is visible? Here is what I picked up from an article on alternet.
“The clitoris is made up of many different parts, including the clitoral head, the hood the clitoral shaft, the urethral sponge, erectile tissue, glands, vestibular bulbs and the crura (or the clitoral legs). Only the clitoral head and the hood are located outside the body.”
Wow! So the clitoral hood is just like the foreskin of the penis. It protects the sensitive little bundle of (loadsa) nerves. The clitoris can be located in slightly different places depending on which woman you are looking at. Those with clits located a little further from the vaginal opening can have more difficulty orgasming in traditional missionary position because is isn’t as ‘involved’ in the action.
The second hole in your lady garden is the urethrea, where your pee comes out! It is much smaller than the vagina, but it is separate from the vagina, as you can see in the diagram.
The labia majora and labia minora – I prefer to call these the outer and inner labia. Generally speaking, the labia majora are the larger lips in your nethers, on the outside, and the labia minora are the ones tucked under the majora. But it turns out that some women’s inner lips can be bigger than their outer lips. These are the areas that women differ most in. These lips come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and colours. As the labia is what most women get a bit paranoid about, we could talk about this for a while, but if you want to educate yourself more on this aspect of the foof, what I’ll do is give you the link to a great Australian website called the labia library.
Did you know that the vagina is just the tunnel that begins at the vulva and ends at the cervix – it doesn’t include any of the bits we can see on the outside. A vagina is actually a ‘potential space’ – meaning that it isn’t much of anything until it is filled, just like like a sock. This is why it can happily store a tampon whilst at other times will accommodate some well endowed men or toys, and of course, push a baby out of it!
The hymen is a thin piece of membrane that usually shaped like a half moon in adolescent women, which allows their menstrual blood to flow out! Oh, it sometimes can be a thick piece of membrane for some so if you haven’t had any penetrative sex and find it painful to try, you may have a thick hymen. (This is only one possibility, I know it can mean a lot of other things too – physical and psychological) Just to expel a myth – is is actually quite elastic so doesn’t necessarily break after a woman’s first intercourse experience so you can’t tell if somebody is a virgin by inspecting the presence of the hymen. Also, not even half of women bleed when they break their hymen.
This is a little crash course in our bits – I look forward to going into more detail in future blogs about particular bits of our bits but I hope I have provided a little simple ‘lesson’ for some of you which hasn’t been too boring. To those who know all of this already, well done and yay for knowing yourself! To those that didn’t know all of this, yay for now knowing yourself!
By the way – the word ‘vulva’ isn’t on these diagrams but just to confirm what the vulva actually is, it is the ‘external genitalia’ so it is most of what you can see on the first diagram (apart from the anus and perineum).
My final thought of this blog – The best way to clean female anatomy is to let it clean itself. It contains colonies of mutually symbiotic flora and micro organisms that protect against dangerous microbes. Don’t use douches because it can wash the vagina of these things, and this is what could give you thrush and the like. The period and also the thick discharge you get when you ovulate also helps clean you out. If you still believe you should wash your bits, use a non-perfumed soap or one like Femfresh. This weekend has been a fabulous one of London soirees, looking forward to sharing their testimonials!