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How the Planet London Awards went

Hey loves,

This weekend just gone was the Planet Awards, for which I was shortlisted in the LBQ Business category. I was up against Pink Lobster Dating, Square Peg Media, Pretty Pink Pearl, Barberette and my old bosses, Sh! Womenstore.

The awards were held at the Catford Broadway Theatre in London, a gorgeous Victorian Theatre. It was round the corner from the house of a good friend of mine so I thought ‘may as well make a weekend of it’ It was my birthday the day afterwards too, so I decided to stay in London a bit longer to celebrate it there.

The awards started at 3pm. I decided to wear a dress for the occasion! My wife came along with me, we were later joined by my friend who’s house we were staying at, and upon arrival we spotted our friends Slamsisters who had made a special journey from Cheltenham to be there just to be a part of the awards. Not long after that, we spotted Alicia Eyo  – Denny from Bad Girls and apparently she was in Emmerdale too? We also spotted Sarah Waters! She had been nominated for a couple of awards. I was really impressed that such a star still stays in touch with her queer roots – and she did indeed tell us how winning a Planet Award which was mainly voted for by the queer community meant so much more to her. I even got to chat with her too, for proper – she asked me about my business and didn’t try to shoo me away…I ended up shoo-ing myself away!

The new and first ever LGBT Poet Laureate Trudy Howson was there hosting the awards, and we heard some of her (naughtier) poems at the after party later that night!

I didn’t think I was going to win but every time somebody won an award and gave a speech, I would daydream about what I would say! They had been giving honourable mentions here and there to nominees who hadn’t won but they feel deserved recognition, and that is exactly what I got. I was presented with a certificate and had an opportunity to give a little speech. I could have said loads and could have promoted myself but no, I got there and said something about being a small business from Cardiff and mumbled a couple of thank yous and left…confident Rhiannon had disappeared for 60 seconds! The winners were Sh! Womenstore and I was genuinely happy for them :-)

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There was plenty of time to network afterwards though and despite that, I still didn’t get to talk with all of the women I wanted to. I got the opportunity to speak with performer Helen Oakleigh who had written a poem on Gay Pride (I had tweeted about it but my autocorrect decided to call is ‘Gaydon Pride’!) and she performed it for the first time on Sunday. It was bloody great! When we chatted, we remembered each other from the ‘Gingerbeer days’ – an online forum for LBQ woman in London which I joined in 2006 when I moved to London and to make new friends. I made loads of new friends through Gingerbeer and recognised Helen from a few social events from ‘back in the day’ and we have many mutual friends.

I chatted with a lot of lovely people and was lucky enough to have Carrie hang out with me and my wife and friend for a while. Carrie is one of the editors for Diva Magazine, and despite me having written for them since November, I haven’t got to meet any of them yet – ah the joys of technology. It was good to chat with her for a while and put a face to a name.

I also bumped into Caitlin Maggs, somebody I used to work with back in Cardiff in 2011-13 who was a bit of a shy one back then and once drunkenly whispered to me that she was bi but is now all loud and proud and living in London, yay her! She is a freelance writer, you should check her stuff out and hire her – http://caitlinmaggs.blogspot.co.uk/ She was the one assisting with the social media around the Planet Awards.

It felt great to be a part of the Planet London community. It is great to have them there online but when you are in it in real life, it is amazing. I feel blessed to have a good relationship with them, I love that I can write sexual health content for them but my god – being around that many LBQ women on Sunday has made me mourn the lack of this scene in Cardiff. I’m lucky enough to have a few queer lady friends around me but wow – a space for us all to go and have a drink? Nowhere to be seen.

Anyway, I digress! If you want to see the full list of awards and all that goes with them, head over here 

Congratulations to Planet London on a great day and for bringing some great people together xxx

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How has your 2016 started?

I’m happy to say that I’ve had a good start to my year, let’s see if it continues!

January saw me publish my first articles as the new Sex/Life Editor for Diva – the National UK Magazine for Lesbian, Bi and Queer women.

Here is my  first piece published in January
This is my February piece
And this is the March piece that has just been published. I am going to write more about this very soon because I am IN LOVE with this product!!!

I also write an article for their print magazine every month, which you will need to buy to read.

I compered Ignite Cardiff in the last Wednesday of January. I did a talk there last year (watch the vid here). Steve Dimmick, the person who has compered every night for over 3 years had to miss his first one and I was the lucky one to be invited to host it in his absence. I really enjoyed the experience and it looks like everybody enjoyed having me there so that was very cool! That evening I hit my 500 followers mark on Twitter too :-) Here’s the one pic of me so far. (I hate the pic because it’s reminded me of how much weight I have put on over the last year BUT I am doing something about that this year…and apparently it’d not the best angle of me!) But I have to say – I felt great and that’s what really matters, right?Ignite

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A couple of days later, on the Friday, I found myself in a dressing room at the ITV studios on the Southbank! They were filming a second (and much better) series of Sex Box (which I wrote about in December) which this time is hosted by Steve Jones and Goedele Liekens – my new hero since watching the programme “Sex in Class” . I was part of the studio audience and got interviewed by Steve (who is SUCH a nice guy!) about my job and my expertise and I got to show him the Sqweel too.

I also got to meet Goedele and chat clitoral legs, which was so amazing! You can tell how ecstatic I was to get a pic with her!

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The voting for the Planet Awards has come to a close and the winners will be announced on the 20th of March at a glamorous event in London so I shall let you know how it went for me. Thank you to those who took the time to vote for me. There are still some places left for the awards ceremony so check it out if you want to come along.

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I have also been writing for Ultimate Planet:

Here is the first article
Here is the second article
Here is the third article

The fourth one will be out soon!

I took place in an LGBT History month event on Sunday organised by Planet London and Lewisham’s LGBT community. It was a Yoga, spirituality and sex afternoon. I spoke about the basics of pleasure and sex toys, everyone seemed to enjoy themselves as did I!

On top of that, I have a personal trainer and am eating cleanly so that’s another good start to the year :-)

The only thing missing, really, is money. Despite the above, I am still not getting enough purchases from you lovely people and am struggling to keep enough money in the bank. If you would like to support my business then take a look around the shop. If there is something stopping you from shopping with me, tell me and I will see if I can do something about that.

I don’t just sell toys. I also sell nipple jewellery , games , hen party goodies and jokey sweets. I even provide a personal shopping service. What can you not like? If this really isn’t your bag, spread the word around and tell your friends.

I would love feedback if you have any.

Thanks and love you loads, Rhiannon x

There are reasons why I am not blogging so much right now!

Hey team,

I am very aware that I have only posted one blog this month and it wasn’t intentional, but there are some lovely reasons why I haven’t been as regular with my posts as usual.

At the end of last year I was approached by a couple of businesses that wanted my content on their website/publications. First of all, I am the new Sex/Life editor for Diva – the national LBQ women’s magazine and they are paying me for the content I write – one article a month in their magazine and one article a month on their website. (Read here to find out why this is such a great thing for me to be a part of!)

Diva published my first articles in their January issue. My magazine article covered making more masturbating a New Year’s resolution, where I listed all of the health benefits. If you read my blog regularly, you will know how much I rave about it! The online article was the top 10 techniques for masturbation. You can have a read of it here.

The February articles will be coming out soon :-)

I am also writing for Ultimate Planet. I love Ultimate Planet – one of the two owners is an old friend from when I used to live in London and we have reconnected over the last few months and we managed to reach an agreement that suited the two of us, and I am now publishing an article on their website once a fortnight (every other Sunday). Here is the link to the first one!

Oh and on the Ultimate Planet note, I have been nominated for one of their awards, please vote for me!

So because of these two new and very exciting things, I hope that you can understand why I haven’t kept up to date with my blogs on here!

On top of all of this, I am still working at a paid job for a lot of the week because I am unable, yet, to take any money from the company to pay myself. Because of this, I have less time than I used to for when it came to writing up blog posts. I look forward to the day when I am making enough money to pay me! (massive hint for you lot to think about how you can support me by either buying something, booking a consultation or soiree, or recommending/shouting about me! Marketing this kind of business is horribly complicated and restricted!)

I did have a guest post lined up for last Friday about anal sex but they pulled out at the last minute and unfortunately I didn’t have the time to write one up myself.

I am not saying that this blog is going to stop existing. It is still very important to me that you can keep up with me and learn new stuff but it may not be as regularly as it has been. The good news is, though, that my career and my reputation is growing!

I am always on the look out for guest bloggers and suggestions of what I could write, so do get in touch.

To be notified of my next blog post, just head to the left of this post and click on ‘register’. It will ask you to give yourself a username and your email address then you will get an email when I post a new one!

Lots of love and pleasure to you all, have a lovely weekend xxx

Some VERY important news and you all need to take action!

Aaaand Happy new year, blah blah resolutions blah blah blah?

If I’m going to make this post a tedious link to resolutions, it will be ‘make it your resolution to support small Welsh businesses…specifically mine…and vote for me!’

And best of all, it will take less than 5 minutes and that’s one resolution achieved!

Could you all pop over to http://www.ultimate-planet.com/planet-services/ultimate-planet-awards/vote-2016-ultimate-planet-awards, scroll about halfway down to the ‘Positive Women’ theme, find the LBQ Business category, see That’s The Spot and give me a big tick?

You will need to give your name and email address but they are good people and do not spam! You don’t need to choose somebody for every award, so if you are not very familiar with the LBQ scene, do just vote for me in the LBQ business category and head to the bottom and click ‘cast your vote’. If you want to take the time to scroll through the awards and recognise any names, by all means, give them a vote!

I’m proper chuffed to be shortlisted for an award by Ultimate Planet – Ultimate Planet originates from London but is now taking over the UK! It is a community website for LBQ (Lesbian, Bi, Queer) women and it lists and discusses all things LBQ-related, be that from events to books to gigs. They also have their own awards! Ultimate Planet created the Ultimate Planet Awards to recognise, thank and promote the hard work from dedicated grass roots event organisers and community businesses who are committed to improving the lesbian, bi and queer scene. They are delighted to be able to show the love to all the women who work tirelessly to create a fun, safe, special scene and community for lesbian, bi and queer women in London, Brighton and beyond.

The awards started in 2013 and after the success of the first event  they have continued them each year. They continue to grow in popularity with the hashtag  #lesbianoscars and #planetawards

I have been shortlisted along with another 5 businesses and am happy to say I am the only Welsh entrant. They have up until recently been fairly London-centric (let’s be fair, the couple that run it also have full time jobs so there is only so much spare time available! I do truly admire the success of Planet London) so it is a great feeling for a one woman business from Cardiff get recognised. They have recently started working on going national though, and I am looking forward to getting more involved with them.

Being a business that promotes positive sex education, speaking openly about sex and preferences and also uses Welsh day to day, I think you will agree that, for the UK, this is a very niche business, This is why the award would mean so much to me if I were to win it – it will help put Wales on the Ultimate Planet map and show the English that Welsh is alive and kicking!

Remember – it will take up less than 5 minutes of your time xx

Diolch yn fawr am eich pleidlais ac eich gefnogiaeth, thank you for your vote an d your support.

The deadline for the votes is January the 31st, and the awards will be held in Spring time.

WISH ME LUCK (and share this post!)

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Rhiannon x

Some good news, especially for the girls who like girls!

I have some news to share with you today:

I have recently become Diva’s new Sex/Life editor! This is a  pretty big thing for me. Diva is the only National magazine in the UK for LBQ (lesbian, bi, queer) women and pretty much every girl who likes girls in the UK knows what Diva is.

When I was 14 (1996) my best mate came out to me as bi and I promptly came back out to her as bi! It was such a relief to have somebody I was so close to to feel the same as I did, especially at that age when it wasn’t so easy to come out. Section 28 still existed, the age of consent for gay men was still 18, LGBT people couldn’t get married or civilly partnered, or adopt – there has been a lot of progress since then. And, of course, we were at that awkward age in school. We soon found ‘the only other lesbian’ in our Year and at 16 we started exploring the scene. One of the first things we did was buy Diva. There was a debate at the time in the ‘readers letters’ part about whether there should be posters in the mag so we wrote in supporting it and disclosing our crushes (mine were Kate Winslet and Clare Danes….nothing’s changed there!) and also telling them our little story… and they published it the next month! This was very exciting for us! I hope that my bezzie still has that copy somewhere!

(The next thing we did was buy t-shirts with those classic logos – ‘I can’t even think straight, ‘closets are for clothes, etc…which happened to be when I came out to ma!)

Anyway what I am saying is that Diva is an institution and it is an honour to be their new Sex/Life editor. I hope that you enjoy my articles. The deal is that I write one for the website and one for the mag every month, and there will be plenty that aren’t girl-on-girl specific too. Here is the link to my first article that was published online this weekend. This is for all women. If you want to read the one for the mag, you’ll have to buy it!

I have by now submitted my February pieces to them, it’s fun working in the future!

I’d love to know what you think about the articles. If you have any questions or want to challenge me on anything I say, do get in touch with me on rhiannon@thatsthespot.co.uk

I would also like to take this opportunity to thank Anna Sansom, the previous Sex/Life editor, for recommending me to the editors of the mag (very glad I went to L Fest this year!)

So, lesbians, have you been thinking of having a sex toy soiree but haven’t got one together yet? Imagine what your friends would say when they find out that it will be held by the Sex/Life editor for Diva!

Click here to enquire about the soirees – I look forward to hearing from you!

Rhi xxx

 

(Oh, and in case any of you are wondering, no, me and bezzie mate never got together. Ew. We are still the bestest of friends! The ‘other gay girl’ did end up being my first girl kiss though!)

Introducing the best Nipple Jewellery in the world!!!

I am very excited to introduce you to a completely new collection from That’s The Spot. It’s not a vibrator or a dildo and is accessible to women, men, and all those in-between!

(WARNING – CONTAINS IMAGES OF NIPPLES! AND NOT MINE!)

I first met Nick and Sveta in Bristol this April at the Alternative and Burlesque Fair. They were selling nipple jewellery. Sveta showed me (very skilfully) how to wear the jewellery by using my small finger as an example. I tell you what – there is nothing like this out on the market. This is the kind of jewellery that you can wear whether you have pierced nipples or (more importantly) NOT! It is such a simple invention, you would wonder why this hasn’t been introduced to the world until now! You simply twiddle your nipples a bit so they stand to a attention and pop the loop over it and tighten it, and there you have it – pretty nipples! The loop can be loosened or tightened, dependent on the mood of your nipples and they come in sooo many styles and colours, there is something to suit everybody.

Here are some to give you an idea:

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Nick and Sveta are the owners of this Nippleicious – they make the jewellery themselves and charge a really decent price for them too, so even those with a tight budget can afford them. The ones above, for instance, are £10.95 & £12.95 They have really taken off this year, and there are so many sex bloggers and experts in the industry going crazy for them, ranging from Charlotte Rose to Horny Geek Girl and soo many more. They are currently working with a particular high end pleasure store and one of the biggest wholesalers in the UK are in the middle of sorting out a contract with them.

So Nippleicious are growing from strength to strength but guess who currently has exclusive rights to sell them in Wales? Me! This is the first time that anyone in Wales will be able to check the nipple jewellery out in real life and be able to buy them in person!

I shall be bringing the jewellery to the soirees, and the local fairs in the forthcoming months. The first fair they will make their debut at is the International Welsh Cabaret Festival at the Sherman Cymru next weekend – Friday the 13th and Saturday the 14th of November. You should have this on your list of places to visit anyway, but if you haven’t, I would recommend you pop in, see a show and take part in their workshops. They will also have a marketplace there where I shall be and this is where the product is going to be launched. You should pop in and check them out and see them for yourselves, I will do the little finger demonstration on them too to help you understand them!

So remember, they are NOT nipple clamps, they are NOT piercing jewellery, they are NOT nipple pasties or tassles that need sticking on, they are nipple friendly for all!

Nippleicious also sell chain and decolletage sets – so there are a bit more to these. Here are a couple of what I shall have with me at the fair:

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Most of them are detachable too.

Oh, I LOVE this one!

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I can’t wait to show them to you all next weekend!

If you can’t make it to the fair next weekend but still want to check it out, get in touch with me and we can work out a way to show them to you! You can also keep an eye on my events page  or organise a soiree x

NIPPLEICIOUS JEWELLERY SHALL BE ON SALE ON MY WEBSITE SOON AFTER THE LAUNCH ON THE 13th.

My top five picks from Sexhibition

For those that read my previous post about Sexhibition, you will know how busy we were and that I didn’t get much chance to look around all the stalls in as much detail as I hoped I would be able to. Some stalls really caught my eye though, and I want to recommend them and for you to have a look!

These are in no particular order:

Shiri Zinn makes the most beautiful dildos I have ever seen, and the most beautiful harnesses! She also makes butt plugs! We had a lovely chat and she showed me how heavy a lot of the dildos and butt plugs were, they were made of glass and were just so sculptural! She has given me her blessings for me to sell her items on my website, so as soon as I have money to buy in some stock, I shall have the harnesses available and maybe the dildos (she only mentioned the harnesses in her email to me!)

Misfortunes of Virtue was another very different stall, what you found on sale there were some very beautiful handmade silverwork with art inspired by the writings of the Marquis de Sade. It is items like cufflinks and spoons and the like, so you don’t immediately see the images on the items straight away! On Friday we had a good chat with Mary, the owner, and again, I am looking to get these up for sale on my website too :-)

Ethical Kink stood out to us. This is a company that handmakes their fetish and BDSM gear or sources it ethically. Their products are vegan, they don’t use sweatshops or source from companies that use sweatshops, they donate monthly to the International Labour Rights Forum, who’s aim is to promote humane treatment of all employees, and much more.
Becky chatted with Stu, the owner, on the Friday evening and on Sunday I gave him advice about which manufacturers I know to be the most ethical.

The Bondageman is a great company – they sell a lot of stuff but they also make candles especially for heat play and they advertised these candles through showing pictures of some of the art that one can create on somebody’s back, very cool! You should go to their website just to see these pics! They did a bit of a demo for us, using wife lady’s arm – very helpful!

Sheets of San Francisco is my final recommendation. They have created a sheet that is completely waterproof so you can have sex as messy as you want and you will not get your bed messy! Any liquid will stay on the outside and protect your bed and mattress, brilliant! The sheets feel nice and sexy too and they make limited edition prints too. This is another item that shall be up for sale on my website soon!

On top of these recommendations, I want you male readers to check out  Love Your Balls . They spent all weekend showing men how to check their testicles to make sure that they were good and healthy and making them aware of testicular cancer. I admire them for setting up there and bringing this really important issue to the event.

A special mention goes to Love Arc, who I got to spend a bit more time with. I met them at the trade show in June and already have their fab creation for sale on my website  

Another mention to Kinky Monkey, who’s harnesses I have sold since I started a year ago. The owner Clare is awesome, and so helpful! Despite her being there, I still sold some of her harnesses, and she even let me buy a particular one off her so I could sell to my customer, wow!

It was great to also see Horny Geek Girl – sex toy reviewer and writer of erotica – and have a hug and a catchup. I met a couple more sec toy reviewers too – Justindecerous and ‘Jessica’ of Jessica’s Rabbit (I am not sure if she would like her real name mentioned?!)  who are also in the same profession as Horny Geek Girl.

I had the pleasure of catching with Lulu who is my contact at Rocks Off (a brand I am very big on, as you can tell if you’ve attended a soiree of mine!) Seb from one of my wholesalers, and Tanya from Intimate Torment, who was a big help to me last May at a Bristol event when I asked her how I actually find the wholesalers! Seb’s company was the first one she recommended :-)

I’ll tell ya what was really great – A woman called Charlotte Rose introduced herself to me on the Sunday and upon hearing my reply to ‘What does your company do exactly?’ she invited me to be interviewed on her radio show which she hosts on a Monday night! It was great to be a part of it, and thank you Charlotte, for supporting my business through inviting me to be on the show! Charlotte is a great woman – you all need to look at what she does – www.1stladyofsex.com – she is a sex worker, a political campaigner and a sex educator, and I look forward to keeping in touch with her.

Here is a recording of the show, listen to it all, but if you have to pick a point in it, go to the 97th minute to hear me :-) She also interviews Shiri Zin and Simon, the male half of LoveArc.

I love this business and I love the connections I make. Everyone is so happy and positive and just great company, so much love to you all xxx

 

The Amazingness of Sexhibition!

WELL, this weekend just gone – August the 21st-23rd – I spent the weekend in Manchester trading at the most amazing event! It was called Sexhibition!

The woman behind it, Cheryl Smith, decided it was time to create an epic event oop North, bringing in all aspects of the sex industry into one big room. It was held at Event City and was a very colourful weekend, I am so glad to be a part of the first one and I would highly recommend you visit next year. I reckon I will be there again!

My wife was lovely enough to come with me and support me for the whole weekend. I tell you what, I definitely couldn’t have done without her. Still being so new, I can’t afford to employ anyone, and because my wife has ‘put up’ with my sex toy geekery over the last year and a half, she has turned into a bit of a sex toy expert herself, I am so proud of her! I am pretty sure that being a sex toy expert in her spare time was not part of her agenda in life before she met me! Along with the amazing customer service she gave and the sales she made, the emotional support was something no other employee could have given!

The first day was a bit stressful (this is where the emotional support came in!) – we left at 10.15am from Cardiff and should have got to Manchester by 1.30pm, but loads of different bits of traffic meant that we didn’t get to Event City until 4pm – and that is the time we should have been set up and ready!!! Luckily, a lot of other exhibitors had been through the same thing, so we were all running late and the programme of the evening changed a bit to accommodate those that were late. There was meant to be the opportunity to walk about the place to see everybody else’s stalls but as so many of us were still setting up, it was a more bit ad hoc than intended…I think?!

At 8pm it was the industry cocktail evening, we had managed to get changed and make ourselves look decent for the evening and managed to get to the bar before the queue got silly.

 

Before we got in, we bumped into Cara Sutra – THE sex blogger of the UK (check her out, she is a big name in our industry) and hung out with her for a good ten minutes, which felt quite special. I met her briefly at the ETO trade show in June as she was running a blog-specific area, and tried to chat with her, but being such an in demand person, and now with her own bondage kit being retailed, which was elsewhere at the show, she was understandably very busy so we kept missing each other! So what did I do with my time I had with her on Friday? Made small talk and a bit of a fool of myself. I cracked a silly joke that was just embarrassing and didn’t make sense. Nevertheless, it was great to hang out with her a little. (Gonna be honest, I was a bit awestruck and not many women reduce me to the person I was in those ten minutes. Embarrassing much. She had a very vampy look about her though, which didn’t help!)

The industry night wasn’t a success for me unluckily. We chose somewhere to sit down which I think was a bad move, but we were knackered and had a big suitcase with us as we were staying with a friend in town. There is one couple that sat on the other end of the table, which made conversation difficult. We probably should have stayed standing and near the bar so we could have started chatting with people than. There was a panel talk for the night too, which was a discussion about porn and the paywall. It had some great panellists and great points being made, but due to the space we were in, and the buzz of chat in the air, it was difficult to hear them, which was a pity. We left the night a bit earlier than we could have and found our way to the correct bus into the middle of Manchester and had a great catchup with my bud who let us have his bed. I studied in Manchester so still have a decent amount of friends up there, but he is the only one I was able to see, as the weekend kept me quite busy!

I think this cocktail was called something like 'sexually arty'? It had Goldschlager, lime and other flavours we loved!

I think this cocktail was called something like ‘sexually arty’? It had Goldschlager, lime and other flavours we loved!

Now Saturday was EPIC. It was from 10am-5.30am then it closed down for a reset for the evening do which was from 7.30pm-1am, and yes, we were to be there for the whole time. This is the biggest event I have taken part in, so far, and was a bit of a financial risk. I had intended on just visiting for the day and ‘scoping it out’ but Cheryl seemed to like my business a lot and charmed me into exhibiting there in the end! I didn’t know what to expect and in one way I was looking forward to just getting my name out there. I’ll tell ya what, we were busy all day! Something That’s The Spot prides itself on is giving information to all about how things work and why they work like they do and what they can do for you. The advice is bespoke and detailed, and it was great chatting with so many different people about our toys. The G Vibe was a favourite – it does look different from the rest! The Stronic always provokes a reaction with the women and immediately goes on their wishlist. Another big point of conversation was the Mooncup – some women had heard of it and some hadn’t. It was great to educate so many women this weekend on why the Mooncup is the future. It left a lot of women with something to think about and some of them took the leap and bought one – praise to each and every one of you! The biggest seller, by far, were the Quickie Cuffs – we sold out of them in the first day, never mind the evening!

I had two tables – one was dedicated to dildos and strapons and the other was vibrators, lubes and sweets It was great how many different people took the time to look at the dildos and the harnesses, and I love chatting with the peggers. For those that don’t know what pegging is, it is the simple act of a woman wearing the strap on and giving anal sex to their male partner. I love it when I meet men who have discovered their ‘P Spot’ (the male version of the G Spot where the prostate is – up the bum) – as soon as a man allows the experience to happen to them, they then open up a new world of possibilities. It’s something I really try to encourage men to do, so when I met so many of them this weekend, it was great to see them so comfortable with it and getting excited at the thought of buying a new dildo, rather than making awkward jokes about it. I helped one woman try on a Kinky Monkey Harness over her trousers – I joined in with her of course – and I also had this lovely chat with a girl who had a very similar name to me. She had come out at the beginning of this year as gay and was interested in trying out strap-on sex. I got to have a real, proper chat with her about it – one of my favourite things – introducing something new to somebody, and not just talking about the products but also about the act of using it, and helping them feel safe and excited about it! She bought a great dildo harness combo (this time a Sportsheets harness – more affordable and machine washable) I hope she is enjoying her new experiences – would love to hear how it went, if you are reading this!

There were a lot of traders there. I have just counted the list and there were 96 altogether. In my next post I am going to tell you about my top 5 exhibitors from the weekend. Along with the weird and wonderful traders, with stalls ranging from bondage gear to fetish wear to nail art to 3D printing to sex beds, ans also companies like swingers parties, porn producers and even SEO, there were some cordoned off spaces there too. There was a XXX cinema with some tasteful, arty Avant Garde erotica on, as well as documentaries and fashion films. There were 2 spaces for workshops on various subjects, like tantra, bondage, wax candle art, pole dancing, sexual confidence. There was also a main stage with some wonderful fashion shows and talks. I almost wish I had been a punter! The wife had seen a couple of the shows and said that they were all gorgeous. I am planning on proposing a strap-on workshop for next time.

We closed at 5.30pm and we went to find somewhere to eat. We were next to the Trafford Centre, so it wasn’t difficult, oh and the wife completely fell in love with the Trafford Centre! ‘Why can’t St David’s 2 be like this, seriously, why?!’ We treated ourselves to a Gourmet Burger – we have been living very cleanly with our eating in the last few months, so this was a big treat! (Yeah we did pay for it later on with bloatedness and sugar crashes)

It all started again at 7.30pm, and it was definitely a different atmosphere. The evening was more sensual and exotic. There were some (apparently) gorgeous performances, including burlesque, pole dancing, cabaret and more. One of the workshops areas turned into a lap/pole dancing club, and the XXX cinema was still in full swing. Some Guests had pre-booked an a la carte dining experience, with the tables being right in front of the stage. The other workshop area had been transformed into  ‘An adventure in debauchery’ hosted by Dystopia – a legendary BDSM and Fetish party. There was even this awesome bar which served gourmet coffees and afternoon teas in fine china, next to a stage with drag artists! A lot of people had made a proper effort to dress up for this – there were some fabulous looks going on, from corsettes to leather jock straps to gimp masks to latex spikes! We were next door to a Manchester-based shop called ROB of Manchester and they had doggy play happening all day anyway! There had been a ‘Pinups and Pornstars’ event before the evening do started, where people got to meet some of the ‘great and glamorous of the international adult and fetish scenes’ I can imagine that was quite popular! I overheard a conversation between two pornstars in the toilets – interesting getting an insight into their lives!

Due to the entertainment and other fabulous distractions, custom wasn’t so great in the evening, although there was still a lot of positive chat at our stall. We decided to close up at 11.30pm. We were knackered! Due to the fact that there were still people around, we had to pack down the stall so nobody nicked any items. We only hid everything under the tables, so if there were any ‘evil gimps’ about, they could have easily taken stuff. Being newbies to this, we learned from this and know how to deal with it next time. The stalls around us had systems and we have learned from them too! (Not a thing was stolen, the sex and fetish community can, as I thought, be trusted!)

Sunday was a quieter day generally. There was still stuff going on on the stage but no workshops. It was more chilled and less busy. Sales slowed down for us but we still made a lot of connections, and we had managed to pay for the stall on the first day so everything else was a bonus! It closed at 3pm and we managed to leave at 4pm and got home at 8.30pm. It was my turn to drive at 6pm and I decided to have a coffee just before then so that I didn’t fall asleep at the wheel. Now I haven’t drank any caffeine in months, so when we were ready for sleep at 11pm I was like ‘phew, the caffeine didn’t keep me awake for that long’…then I spent another 4 hours awake 4 HOURS!!! I got to sleep at 3am and had to be up at 4.30am to take my lovely lady wife to the airport (she had just helped me for 3 days, it was the least I could do!) Sleeping patterns are now back to normal :-)

Despite the fact that I barely left my stall, I was still able to meet some people in the industry and make some important connections. I will talk about that in my next blog, so stay tuned!

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I’m going to be trading at a few places over the Summer, visit me!

Well, ’tis the season of festivals and I shall be at some of them!
I have already attended Gloucestershire Pride but here are the other exciting places I will be at over the next 2 and a bit months:

15th of August – Pride Cymru – Coopers Field, Cardiff

22nd & 23rd of August – Sexhibition – Event City, Manchester

12th of September – Alternative and Burlesque Fair – The Institute, Birmingham

18th of September – Glitzy Ladies’ Shopping, Psychic and Pamper Fair – The Twelve Knights, Port Talbot

27th of September – Vanity Fayre – Portland House, Cardiff Bay

3rd of October – Alternative and Burlesque Fair – Bristol Bierkellar

I have been attending Pride Cymru/Cardiff Pride for years, ever since it started, and it is going to be quite special for me to trade there for the first time! I am looking forward to introducing myself to the LGBT community that I haven’t connected with yet and establishing myself as the place for lesbians to get their fun and advice from. It is the first time in quite a while that Pride Cymru are allowing us sex toy traders in, so I am glad to be a part of those testing it out. We will be in a separate indoor area where only 18+ people can attend, so no embarrassed parents or curious children can get to the dildos!

Sexhibition is a new event which quickly turned from a one day thing into a whole weekend thing. It is an honour to be a part of the premiere of the event and to be in a place were all things sex-related are under one roof. There will be workshops, speakers and performers and many traders, including myself. If you’re in Manchester, I would encourage you to visit this. Even if you’re not on the ‘scene’ or not necessarily kinky, open your mind and visit – the people at this kind of event are all very happy and open minded, and very welcoming!

Glitzy was my first ever event I attended as a trader and is run by a lovely lady who support what this business does. I look forward to trading in a different are with them in September.

Vanity Fair is all about raising money for the charity Mind and will include live performances, a fashion show, beauty-associated bits and bobs and many traders – looking forward to trading in a Grade II listed gorgeous building!

I have traded at a couple of the A&B Fairs already but am yet to do Birmingham, which is exciting! I am also looking forward to going to the next and more local one to me in Bristol :-)

So if you can’t organise a soiree, but want to shop in person with me, consider attending one of these events xx

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Continued post from my last post

Well, so much for me writing the second part of my post over the weekend!

So to continue from my last post

My lady Rock Chick came from Swindon with 3 other businesswomen and on their way home from the event the broke down…in the middle of the night. They had to wait quite a while to get ‘rescued’ and decided to discuss their businesses and their business skills. One of these women was a Kinesiologist. For those that don’t know what a Kinesiologist is, it is a person that is able to detect what type of food allergies or intolerances you have, or potentially health ailments too. They do it through testing your strength when you are around the food that may be bad for you. I am sure there is more to it than that but this is the basics of it!

This groups of women is awesome and I love being around them, one of them suggested that The Kinesiologist ‘did some kinesiology’ on Ms Rock Chick to see if her and the toy were suited to each other. She had, funnily enough, never done this before so gave it a go. The results were that she would have a good time with the Rock Chick! I have been in touch with Ms Rock Chick since but I haven’t found out if it worked!

So isn’t that pretty cool – to try out kinesiology on a sex toy! It’s something I may need to look into a bit, because this is even more niche than what I am doing now!

She has since expressed an interest in being That’s The Spot’s ‘face of the slightly older woman’ so you could actually find out at some point who this woman is! So watch this space! Remember you can sign up to my mailing list OR subscribe to my blog. The subscribe button for the blog is to the right of this post, and to sign up to the mailing list, sign up here:

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Rhi xx