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My episode on Pillow Play, which I can give you for half price!

Last year I wrote a review of Pillow Play for Diva Magazine, when I was their Sex/Life writer. It was in the print magazine so you’d need to order a back-order, otherwise, here is my online article I wrote that linked in with the review.

Pillow Play is an app designed to encourage intimacy between partners, regardless of gender or sexuality. I know though –  the word ‘app’ and ‘intimacy’ don’t seem to go together, do they! I’ll tell ya what, though, in this instance, they definitely do! I will leave you to read the details on the actual website but here are the basics:

The app consists of a series of audio scripts that direct an exchange between you and your partner that promotes intimacy. All you need to do is press play, then you can focus on you and your partner. So yes it’s an app, but the app’s service is given over audio, so you don’t have to go back to the app at all whilst you are following the directions given to you both.

The thing I find most fabulous about it, is that it doesn’t involve any genital touching, which is BRILLIANT. It’s up to you what you want to do after the episode has finished, but what Pillow Play does is encourage thoughtful foreplay, or more importantly, different ways of reaching that feeling of intimacy with each other, and that lovely yummy squishy feeling of closeness.

The app shows you many different ways of getting intimate, there is a different theme to each episode, so there is something for everybody. What it does is inspire you, and also helps you both give up control. It allows you to not have to think. It might sound weird, but surrendering yourself to a state of non-thinking is a powerful and rewarding act, and it also increases the focus on each other and yourselves.

I thoroughly recommended this app to the readers of Diva, and after that, I ended up building a relationship with the founder of the creator of Pillow Play, Darren, and I ended up writing my own episode for them!

If I were to pinpoint my area of expertise, it would be physical pleasure with sex toys. The episode written by me is therefore focused on introducing a bullet vibrator into the bedroom, and how to use it without touching the genitals.

I would love for you lot to listen to it and see what you think. It is a great way to break that barrier that many couples have of bringing a toy into the bedroom, and it is a reassuring episode to show you that sex toys aren’t the scary things that some people think they might be. The episode is called ‘Toy Tease’.

And guess what, I because I am one of the authors, I get to give you a DISCOUNT!

When the app is purchased, the buyer gets themselves all 30 of the episodes from Pillow Play, , only for $99 (although it is British made, there are justified reasons why it is in only dollars rather than British pounds) – so with 30 episodes, it’s only $3.30 per episode, or £2.65. This is already a great deal. As the two of you are using it, you can even go as far to say that it is £1.32 (and a half) each.

BUT! What I can do is HALVE the price and offer it to you for $49 only, which is only £1.30 per episode (75p each!). BRRILLLIANT! And how timely for Valentine’s day!

I should ‘warn’ you though, as it charges in dollars, it will ask you to pay some tax, too

(In the interest of transparency, I want to let you know that I am an affiliate of Pillow Play, so I will get a percentage of the amount you spend. So it would be great if you can make sure that you click on the links on this post to make sure that I do get a cut of it. After all, if you read my blog regularly, you have been getting a lot of good information for free already 😉 and on top of that, no payment swapped hands in the writing of this episode)

I was recommending this app way before I got involved with it, so for $49, which is only £39, I reckon you should go for it. I look forward to hearing your feedback on the app!

Rhi xx

 

Do You Want To Read Some More Detailed Articles From Me?

Hello!

As per my post from last week, I listed all of the articles I had written for Diva. These were all stand-alone articles. I also write articles for Planet Nation, which is a community website for LBQ women in the UK. The articles I write for them follow on from each other, in small readable chunks. I will admit that I haven’t written one for them for a couple of months, but we posted the newest one yesterday!

If you would like to read them from the start, here are the links. The whole reason I write these particular articles is to almost walk you through the stages of masturbation through helping you understand your body a bit more and see the odd statistic here and there, and then give you some hints and tips on getting the most out of your solo sexploits.

An Introduction

Do You Know Your Vagina?

The Clitoris (And it won’t run away)

Lube, Glorious Lube

Mindful Masturbation

It’s Still Too Early To Orgasm!

Putting The O Into Your Orgasm

Stay tuned for more articles xxx

Links to my articles on the Diva Website

For a good part of this year, I was the resident ‘sexpert’ for Diva Magazine – the national lesbian magazine in the UK. A couple of months ago, Diva was bought by another company and unfortunately I didn’t make ‘the cut’. I therefore thought that this was a good opportunity for me to put links to all of the articles in one blog post, so if you want to read more of my writing outside of this blog, you can do. I also wrote articles for their print magazines but you’ll have to buy back copies to read those!

I shall put them here in chronological order, with January being the first one:

Top Ten DIY Techniques

The whole strap-on ‘thing’

Diva Tests OMGYes

Bring a subtle bit of kink into your relationship

Sex Pranks – Possible?

Masturbation Month!

Top Five Hi-Tech Sex Toys for Women

Five Ways to Achieve Intimacy Without Sex

Five Things You Might Not Know About Your Pelvic Floor Muscles

Threesomes – A Beginner’s Guide

Enjoy!!

L Fest 2016 – Where you there? Part 4

Now we’re on Sunday!

Because our darling puppy Ollie charmed almost everybody at the festival, we were encouraged to enter the dog show at 10.30am, so we did! It turns out that a 3 month old puppy can’t do much to win the affections of a dog show judge. He couldn’t do any tricks (although by now he can) and he didn’t even win the ‘dog the judge would like to take home’ (although most of the people around us would have chosen Ollie!) so now we know what happens in the competition, we’re ready for next year! (‘Stage Moms’)

We missed a ‘Positive Mindset’ session, for that, which was a pity – good way to start the day off, great programming! My friend Caitlin who was also in charge of L Fest Social Media went to it and love it,

We decided to try a bit of Line Dancing after this, which was in the Dance Room in the Grandstand. Lara A King was hosting it – she was everywhere this weekend, performing, compering and speaking, I swear that she had one of those time changing necklace things that Hermione off Harry Potter had. Lara did make it clear that she was not a Line Dancing Instructor, so we had to bear that in mind. It was all over the place, though, and we left early!

We missed the beginning of another thing – ‘Effective Communication (How to communicate with Deaf People)’ but realised that we are quite good at that because of the line of work my wife works in, as well as my part time job a little bit, so we weren’t too gutted about that. I believe that it helped out the mutual friends a couple of yurts down from us who go to a knitting group in their local town and have a friend there who is hard of hearing.

We finally managed to catch some sketch comedy – Toots and Leigh. I know Kerry Leigh as a comedian and the host of Laughing Cows  (Back in my ‘stand up comedy days’ I performed alongside her a few times) This was fun but it was evident that it was new material. The Green Tent was a great place to test it out though and everybody had a fun time watching it :-)

We actually got around to having a proper look at all the stalls this afternoon too. Oh, the weather was lush, maybe a bit too lush actually, I got a little bit red!
There were some great stalls about though. There was the fabulous Kinky Monkey who make all kinda things outta leather – I sell their strap on harnesses.
There were some great clothing stalls too. I am currently at my fattest I’ve ever been, so didn’t have confidence that I would fit into anything. I loved Gender Free World – a website I had actually been on a week previous. They design clothes, especially shirts for all shapes and sizes, which is great for women who want to wear shirts. It was great that I got to try some shirts on to find out my size. It turns out that I need to lose some weight to fit into their bigger size though. The owner wasn’t there but the person who served me was so lovely and despite the shirt not fitting, she made me feel lovely and told me I was beautiful the way I was! She also said that she would feedback to the owner about making bigger sizes. It motivated me that bit more to get back to healthy eating! There was another one that sold their own designs on general t-shirts and caps. Unfortunately I have forgotten what they were called but it was sailor based. Not my kind of thing but I saw some people looking great in their clothing.

The Slamsisters were there – they are THE place to get lesbian-focussed greeting cards from, and coasters and mugs and tops and bags and pants! They may still have some calendars left too which are selling for £3 rather than £7.95.

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Honeypot gifts were there too selling handmade jewellery and their gorgeous rainbow corsages and buttonholes too. I swear I took a couple of pics of them but I can’t find any on my phone. Here is Ollie modelling one of their gifts though!20160716_123955

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One more stall I want to tell you about is FOCX – they make unisex boxers. I haven’t worn boxers for ages because of my womanly hips but now I’ve come out of my femme phase and am getting butcher again, I had a look around here. The owner was there, Emma Airey. She designs them, so it was great to be able to chat with her! I was concerned about whether they would fit me and she was confident that they would, and they did! I am a size 24 at the mo but the size 22s fit! They’re made of good stretchy material and have a proper gusset too. The biggest size was a 24 so I am very happy with this! They were quite expensive for a pair of pants (£19.99) but I can see why – very good quality, handmade (by Beryl!) and definitely worth it. They had a nice deal going on too.

Being a lesbian business owner, I really enjoyed exploring the different stalls and chatting with other lesbian business owners. It’s a good little club to be a part of! It is important to support your lesbian-owned businesses when you can.

Our next activity was ‘Signed, Sealed Delivered’ which was learning how to sign along to a song with Stacey Stockwell, who was signing all of the performances that weekend. This was a fab experience and my god, Stacey is so cool and funny and made both me and my wife a bit weak at the knees! (actually I said something to her to that affect and embarrassed myself a bit) We learned to sign along to ‘Don’t Stop Believing’. For some reason, the sound system was unable to broadcast the lyrics, just the melody. It didn’t take away from the session at all, though, and I found it a bit poginant that we couldnt ‘hear’ the words. I am happy to say that I still remember how sign to the song, and Stacey has left an impression on me. She and her business owner own Beans Training which is disability awareness training. She gave us a great discount for the online BSL training too, which we are going to take them up on.

After that we popped Ollie back into the yurt for a bit and listened to Heather Peace from afar. We made it back to the big top before she’d finished so got to see her live for a bit.

My favourite part of the festival was the Laughing Cows comedy night – what a way to end the weekend! I can see why they programme it for when they do. Kerry Leigh was compering and was on top form! The comics on the stage that evening were Debra Jane Appleby, Allyson June Smith with Jen Brister headlining. They all had me in STITCHES! Bloody amazing, each and every one of them! If any of these fabulous comics are performing in your locality, you need to see them. My god I love women and I love comedy! Debra and Allyson weren’t queer identified but this didn’t matter in the slightest. No thing was made of it and we enjoyed them for the funny women they were. Jen did a bit of a poll of the age of the audience and asked who was born in the 90’s, 80’s, 70’s, 60’s and 50’s and there were some decent ‘yays’ for most of them! If I remember correctly, there was even a solo yay from somebody born in the 40’s! This just goes to show the different kind of women this festival attracts – all ages and all backgrounds!

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Kerry Leigh Compering

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Debra Jane Appleby was first on

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Allyson Smith was second on

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Jen Brister talking about being a new mum

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This was such a weekend and I implore anybody who has been uhming and ahhing about going to L Fest, you really need to go! You won’t regret it! If you don’t like camping, book a hotel room nearby. There really is something for everybody. One of my favourite things was the fact that when we sat down somewhere, we could strike up a conversation with absolutely anybody, and that is special.

Well done Cindy Edwards and her L Fest Crew for a fabulous weekend, and for booking me in to talk about sex!

L Fest 2016 – were you there? Part 3

The start of Saturday was fab. Apart from the queues at the shower delaying the beginning of the day, we got off to a good start.

We started in the Big Top/Main Stage at 10.30am to do an African Drumming workshop. We both love drumming and don’t do it enough! That was loads of fun!

The rest of the morning was a bit annoying. I introduced myself to the Stage Manager of the Arts Stage ahead of my 2.30pm talk. Because I was using a powerpoint presentation, they needed me back at 12.30pm to make sure that it was all working. Because of this, the morning ended up finishing a bit bitty. We popped over to the new Waitrose in Uttoxeter (not because we’re made of money, it’s because we couldn’t find Asda!) to pick up a few things we had forgotten to bring. Amateurs! We then went back to do the tech check, made some lunch, then I needed to get ready (put some decent clothes and make up on!)

The talk was fun. It is a mixture of education and fun facts and is something I now hope to develop further and possibly turn into a one woman show. I had a decent audience. I love to be on stage and talk publicly, so this wasn’t a problem. I was nervous, though, because I haven’t talked at such length all in one go about lady bits. I have written a lot about it and have done short talks on it, but this was longer. The projector screen wasn’t ideal. It was quite small and was hidden a bit by a lectern thingy which couldn’t be moved. As it was daylight, the images themselves were a bit faint, so I learned from that and next time there will be handouts! Having a background in stand up comedy, I realised later that my comedian muscle memory had come back, and I thought that it hadn’t gone too well because I didn’t ‘get many laughs’….I wasn’t after laughs! I was there to educate! Considering it was an educational laugh, I did get quite a few laughs actually,  in the right places!

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It was such a pleasure for some women to approach me afterwards and ask a few more questions and also give me food for thought. There were some trans women at the talk who also told me that they learned a lot, so this was very special to be able to do that.

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After the talk, we had an early tea and chatted with a few people/friends then we got ready for the sex toy soiree. At my sex toy soirees, I have toys available to buy whilst I am there, so we had half an hour in-between the last act and us to set everything up, including a couple of tables to show some products off on. Thank god for the wife, otherwise I never would have been able to do it on my own!

The soiree was a lot of fun. It is something I do regularly, but usually in the front room of my customers’, so this was the biggest crowd I have ‘performed’ a soiree to! There’s something special about doing a soiree for a queer female audience. ‘my people’! I had a couple of people volunteer themselves to model some strap-ons for me too! I usually pass the toys around for people to look at but there were too many people for this. Unfortunately I lost one little toy that day, which is a pity, but a hazard of the job I spose.

The soiree went on for longer than the hour it was scheduled for, but luckily I was the last one there for the night in the Green Tent, so I went on a bit longer. Mind you, it was a whistlestop tour of the toys! We were near the main tent and we heard Saffron from Republica singing so that was fun! There were lots of questions afterwards (I love questions!) and some people had some fun to have in their tent that evening!

After that, we packed back up and got ready for the evening. We had some of those gin and tonic cans and I drank three of those quite quickly (Wifey finished her first one by that point. and seemed hellbent on getting drunk that night) I had a warm beer from the car, yum, and we could hear the main tent from where we were, so we heard Amy Winehouse perform. Well, an impersonator who did a bloody great job! It’s a pity we didn’t get there to see her but it was good that we heard her at least.

Eva Iglesias was on the stage when we got there. Wifey loved it! I thought she was good but the crowd were going wild for her! Eva has been on allll the shows and has got far on them – X Factor, Britain’s got Talent and The Voice! Her time on stage was fun and you could tell that she was absolutely loving it, in a good way! She seemed quite humbled by it all :-)

The Amy Winehouse impersonator was Vicky Jackson, and she came back on after Eva again as P!nk – OH YEAH!! She was brilliant and it really felt like P!nk was there. It was awesome! Something else quite funny was that at one point, as P!nk she said ‘Did you all enjoy Amy Winehouse? You wanna know something weird – that was me! Weird huh!’ ‘lol’

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I’ve just popped on her website and she also does Katy Perry, Jessie J and Lady Gaga. What a talent!…. and I’ve just spent 20 minutes watching her stuff on YouTube! She has done some vocals for Duplex – A Drum & Bass DJ/DJ’s? I’m in heaven! <stop obsessing, stop obsessing>

Ironically, we were knackered after that and bumped into a couple of friends and after that we went to sleep. Boring. But knackered. We didn’t drink anymore because the drinks cost a lot of money. I think I had a half hour of tipsiness then it went away!

I’ll tell you how Sunday went in my next post.

L Fest 2016 – were you there? Part 2

So yes! We got to Uttoxeter early Friday evening – much later than we thought, but that’s what comes of living with my wife and me not communicating my thoughts properly!

The first event (the welcome talk from Cindy!) didn’t start until 8.30pm anyway, so we didn’t miss out on anything. I get terrible FOMO.

L Fest had released an app this year with the timetable of everything that was going on over the weekend, a map, their twitter timeline, a list of performers/talks/workshops in alphabetical order, and you had the chance to tick the bits you wanted to go to, then the ‘My L Fest’ bit would show you your timetable based on what you had ticked. You could also create some L Fest ‘postcards’ with pics that you had taken and any pics you took on your camera that weekend would be automatically put in your timeline on the ‘My L Fest’ bit! It was a very nifty piece of tech. I believe it was the first time they have presented an app and it was very cool. My main bugbear was that they did the timetable by day and then by venue. It would have been nice to have just seen a list of events in order of time. If it was 3pm and you wanted to see what was going on, you would need to click into each venue to see what was on, and I found this a bit confusing and time consuming. I am sure that they are aware of this feedback though, and I hope that maybe they can work towards changing that for next year. To be fair, they did also provide printed out timetables from the Saturday. All in all, though, it was a great app and allowed all of the artists, including me, to promote themselves with a biog and links to their twitter account and website. Very helpful.

Here is an example of a postcard:

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When you create one, you can share it, but it only shares it as a link. I think it would be nice to be able to download the pic :-) I have shared a screenshot. You can keep generating a new one until you have one that you like.

Actually, the first event was at 7pm and it was the solos meet up – a fabulous service to provide. L Fest is really good at making single attendees feel included, and provide them with an opportunity to meet other solos as soon as possible on the Friday, which then helps them settle in for the rest of the weekend and make new friends (or more!)

So, here is a list of the venues:

Main Stage
Green Stage Tent/Truck
Arts Stage
L Fest Dance
Creative Arena
Kids Area
Cinema
The Retreat
Fire Pit

Funnily enough, the main stage is where all the big acts took place, like Saffron from Republica, Heather Peace, a lot of music acts throughout the day and the comedy night at the end of the weekend.

The Green Stage/Truck was a bit more cabaret stylee (to be used in the lightest sense of the word) with more music and some comedy. The truck and stage were different venues but basically, it was more about the weather. If it was sunny, the act could perform outside on the Truck Stage. If it was raining, they could perform inside the tent. It was mostly down to the artist to choose between the two. They also had a silent disco every night!

The Arts Stage is where a lot of talks/workshops were held and some spoken word events. The more ‘educational’ and calm part of the festival!

L Fest Dance…guess what…a lot of dance happened there! This was a big room based in the Grandstand of the racecourse. During the day it was various dance classes and at night it was DJ stylee.

The Creative Arena is cool. Its a whole circle of different tents, some of them offer little art workshops. My wife made a dreamcatcher last year but didn’t get the chance to do anything this year. There are also a few stalls about but it’s a big area, this bit.

Kids Area – L Fest  are family inclusive too and make sure that there are some activities for children too. This tended to take place within the Creative Arena.

The cinema showed some fab queer and female-based films all weekend, and was in another part of the grandstand. I really wanted to watch a couple of things but the timings didn’t work this time for me, unfortunately.

The Retreat was in a building next to the grandstand and this is where you could get some beauty treatments or some massage. We intended to go in there and treat ourselves but we didn’t get around to it!

The Fire Pit was based in the campsite and was a place to hang out and wind down. We went there on our first night and it was lovely and chilled and a lovely person gave us each a massive marshmallow and a skewer each to toast it – thank you! It was quite quiet when we went there, but that was nice. The fire itself was modest. Maybe the word ‘pit’ made it sound more epic, but it was still lovely!

On our first night we just did a lot of wandering around and sitting down! We attended the welcome talk, we checked out the eating area. There were some great eaty places. The crepe van was ‘very lesbian’, she did some great crepe fillings which I’m sure a lot of the festival goers would have really appreciated! We had one with Biscoff spread, banana and cinammon – YUM! (My wife invented the combo!) There was also a fish finger sandwich van, a veggie food only van, some freshly cooked thai food, and there was more. It definitely wasn’t like the usual food vans at a festival. They were all small companies and seemed to be mostly lesbian/queer owned too. Nice one!

After popping our heads in to various bits and bobs and finishing our marshmallow at the fire pit, we went to sleep. We didn’t drink or party. I suppose for me, I had an important day ahead of me and my wife was being lovely and supportive!

 

L Fest 2016 – were you there? Part 1

Who here remembers my blog post that I wrote about L Fest last year? I visited it for a day and loved it! I wrote a post advising all LBQ women and their friends to go, and if you didn’t, I am going to write up how it went this year. I went there for the whole weekend with my wife and it was a mixture of business and pleasure this time.

The main reason we went last year was to see whether I wanted to trade there. The problem was that there were so many fun things going on that I didn’t want to be tied to a stall all weekend but it was the perfect place for me to bring my business to! As I am trying to move my business model away from retail and more into public speaking and education, Cindy – the organiser – agreed that I could have a couple of speaking gigs instead. Perfect!

I was to do ‘Sex Geek Natter with Rhiannon Kemp-Davies’ at 2.30pm on the Saturday in the Arts Stage and have a good ol’ queer sex toy soiree later on at 6pm in the Green Tent.

In our 5 years together, my wife and I have never been camping together. We have both done it a lot in the past, but we agreed that as we didn’t have any camping equipment, we were going to try out ‘glamping’ and we hired a Green Yurt. This was something that we splashed out on. As I am a small owner  of a new-ish business, I haven’t yet made enough money for me to take out of the business yet, so my budget has been terribly tight for 2 years. I couldn’t quite afford a European weekend getaway so we agreed to camp in luxury with a yurt instead. This was our summer holiday! Our review of the yurt was that it wasn’t as good as what we hoped for. Yes, we had our own power supply, yes we had a lockable door and yes, we could stand up in the tent! We also paid for Green Yurts to provide bedding and air mattresses. It ended up being quite a difficult tent to sleep in. We opted for 2 single air mattresses instead of a double because of our size! There was barely any room for us to move around, and trying to navigate a tent whilst rolling around on 2 air beds wasn’t fun! We got ourselves a puppy maybe a month prior to coming and brought him with us (important to socialise the pup at an early age!) and there was just about enough room for his small crate. There was also a big flappy thing at the top of the tent, which was part of the structure and kept the tent from blowing it away, but it made a lot of noise when it was windy, so as it is Uttoxeter Racecourse, we had the flapping pretty much constantly. We made do, though, and didn’t complain about it. We got on with our weekend, but we left at 11.30pm on the final night so that we could get home and sleep in our normal beds. The Green Yurt guys were lovely, but the price they charged (£490) wasn’t appropriate in our opinions. They used solar power energy, though, which we liked! There were different sizes – we were in the smallest one. We could have upgraded and got a slightly bigger one with proper camping beds. There were also bell tents, but goodness knows how much thy were. We are already chatting with some friends who are more serious about coming next year and whether sharing a big bell tent would be cost effective. There is no doubt that we are going to want to come every year but need to figure out if we should invest in some camping equipment (although the car was jam packed because of the stock I brought) or pay for a dog friendly B&B in Uttoxeter…or share a big bell tent with friends! Can you hire a winnebago?!

What was good about being on the campsite, though, was the sense of community and camaraderie. All those who had forked out for a yurt or a bell tent were in one part of the racecourse and because of another part being waterlogged, everyone else who was camping had to move up a field, so our little yurt community must have looked like right jammy bastards! There are 2 sets of showers placed in the racecourse, I think there were 5 showers in each set. On the first morning, one of the sets had broken, so the queues were a bit sickening, BUT at least there was at least one set of showers to go to still! Obviously most of us wanted to shower at around the same time so there will always be queues, but it is a chance to chat with people, which adds to that sense of community. We got on with all of our yurt neighbours a lot, and funnily enough, 2 doors down, was another couple from Cardiff who we had met a couple of times before because we have a couple of mutual friends!

Oh, something I want to add is that when you buy your ticket for the weekend, camping is included. We obviously paid extra for the yurt. A LOT extra!

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Ooh, I tell you what is also nice. Almost every person there loves dogs! We noticed how many dogs there were last year so were looking forward to being one of those with a dog! Our yurt neighbours all loved him and kept him entertained and covered in love, and it took us ages to walk to anywhere because so many people wanted to stop and say hello to him! It was very flattering and it was lovely to see him get so much attention…but my gosh it was difficult to get anywhere on time! There was one girl who screamed in his face because she found him that adorable! They also have Doggy Day Care, which is a fab service to have as part of the ticket price. Sometimes we would leave Ollie in the tent in his crate for a bit to chill, sometimes he would be with us and sometimes he was in doggy day care. Many people we met said that we should take him to the dog show on Sunday morning too – he is very cute! Here is a pic of him at my talk!

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Ok, so this post is a bit more of a preamble, but a good way to communicate the feel of the festival and also give you an idea of the yurts! The second post will be about the rest of our first day and what L Fest has to offer.

My first post that has nothing to do with sex..

It’s about rugby!

There’s a new women’s rugby team in Cardiff that I have just joined and we are still recruiting! This is an opportunity to literally represent your country too! Not only is this my first post that doesn’t have anything to do with sex but I am going to switch languages in a second which makes it my first post in Welsh! We are a Welsh speaking team which is why writing about it in Welsh only makes sense.

Reit! Mae’r tim wedi cael ei sefydlu achos mae’r Golden Oldie’s Rugby Festival yn cymryd le yng Nghaerdydd eleni, felly mae’n rheswm dda iawn i unrhyw un sydd wastad wedi eisiau trio chwarae rygbi neu wedi chwarae rygbi yn gorffennol a sydd eisiau ail-ddechrau.

Chwaraeais i i fy nhim prifysgol dros 10 mlynedd yn ol. Wnes i drio chwarae nol fan hyn yng Nghaerdydd ond roedd y tim gyntaf ymunais a yn 2005 bach yn rhy ‘hawdd’ wedyn yr un nesaf ymunais a yn 2011 yn rhy annodd! Felly ymunais a’r tim ‘ma 2 wythnos yn ol ar ol glywed am y tim ar Facebook oddi wrth ffrind fy ngwraig.

Rydyn  ni yn ddigon lwcus i gael Caryl James i hyfforddi ni – 29 caps mae hi wedi chwarae i Gymru a dwi’n caru’r ffordd mae hi’n hyfforddi, mae’n teimlo fel mae’r tim yn barod wedi dysgu lot oddi wrthi, a dim ond 4 sesiwn sy’ wedi bod hyd yn hyn. Mae ganddyn ni lot o botential a mae Caryl yn blydi lyfli!

Felly, fe fyddech chi’n cael croeso cynnes a chofiwch – os nad ydych erioed wedi chwarae o flaen, paid a phoeni! Dwi’n eitha ‘unfit’ ond dwi dal yn mynd. Os hoffech chi ddod i’r ymarfer nesaf, cysylltwch a fi a byddai’n hapus i gwrdd a chi a wedyn cyflwyno ti i’r tim.

Mae’r ymarfer pob nos Fercher o 6.30ish tan 7.30ish a falle diod ar ol o bryd i bryd. Mae’n ddigwydd yng Nghaeau Llandaf yn agos i Gerddi Sofia. Parciwch lan ger Cafe Castan.

Mae’r twrnament o’r 21in i’r 28in o Awst – bydden ni’n chwarae Dydd Llun, Mercher a Gwener! Hwn yw’r quote o wefan y twrnament sy’n swmio lan ysbryd y twrnament:

“Golden Oldies Rugby is your opportunity to show all those skills you acquired in younger days while still enjoying your favourite sport. This is not uncompromising competition but rather the means of cementing friendships and enjoying the company of some of life’s most unforgettable characters on and off the field.”

Cymdeithas!!

rygbi

Some good news, especially for the girls who like girls!

I have some news to share with you today:

I have recently become Diva’s new Sex/Life editor! This is a  pretty big thing for me. Diva is the only National magazine in the UK for LBQ (lesbian, bi, queer) women and pretty much every girl who likes girls in the UK knows what Diva is.

When I was 14 (1996) my best mate came out to me as bi and I promptly came back out to her as bi! It was such a relief to have somebody I was so close to to feel the same as I did, especially at that age when it wasn’t so easy to come out. Section 28 still existed, the age of consent for gay men was still 18, LGBT people couldn’t get married or civilly partnered, or adopt – there has been a lot of progress since then. And, of course, we were at that awkward age in school. We soon found ‘the only other lesbian’ in our Year and at 16 we started exploring the scene. One of the first things we did was buy Diva. There was a debate at the time in the ‘readers letters’ part about whether there should be posters in the mag so we wrote in supporting it and disclosing our crushes (mine were Kate Winslet and Clare Danes….nothing’s changed there!) and also telling them our little story… and they published it the next month! This was very exciting for us! I hope that my bezzie still has that copy somewhere!

(The next thing we did was buy t-shirts with those classic logos – ‘I can’t even think straight, ‘closets are for clothes, etc…which happened to be when I came out to ma!)

Anyway what I am saying is that Diva is an institution and it is an honour to be their new Sex/Life editor. I hope that you enjoy my articles. The deal is that I write one for the website and one for the mag every month, and there will be plenty that aren’t girl-on-girl specific too. Here is the link to my first article that was published online this weekend. This is for all women. If you want to read the one for the mag, you’ll have to buy it!

I have by now submitted my February pieces to them, it’s fun working in the future!

I’d love to know what you think about the articles. If you have any questions or want to challenge me on anything I say, do get in touch with me on rhiannon@thatsthespot.co.uk

I would also like to take this opportunity to thank Anna Sansom, the previous Sex/Life editor, for recommending me to the editors of the mag (very glad I went to L Fest this year!)

So, lesbians, have you been thinking of having a sex toy soiree but haven’t got one together yet? Imagine what your friends would say when they find out that it will be held by the Sex/Life editor for Diva!

Click here to enquire about the soirees – I look forward to hearing from you!

Rhi xxx

 

(Oh, and in case any of you are wondering, no, me and bezzie mate never got together. Ew. We are still the bestest of friends! The ‘other gay girl’ did end up being my first girl kiss though!)

GUEST POST – 5 reasons to include erotica in you sex life

The below is the full version of part one of Sex Academy at L Fest which happened earlier this year in July. For the LBQ women out there that haven’t been yet, check out my post here raving about it!

After Sex Academy had finished I tried to meet the speakers and Anna Sansom was the first person I chatted to and who was a very lovely lady and approved of That’s The Spot :-) . I wrote a small version of what she talked about here but after our chat, we have kept in touch and she sent me her full version not long after. I have kept it until now so I hope you all enjoy it!

I should introduce her properly first –  Anna Sansom was DIVA Magazine’s Sex/Life editor for 2 years up until just recently, she is also a published erotic author. You can find her books on Amazon here: http://amzn.to/1LLzwug

An enthuiastic reader and writer of erotica, Anna shares her five key reasons why you might want to include erotica in your sex life. (She has this gorgeous soft Scottish voice which makes listening to Erotica read by her a gorgeous experience!)

 “I’ve been reading and writing erotica since my early 20s. I started off with collections of lesbian love stories but I soon realised I wanted something steamier to enjoy!

I wrote my first erotica story to seduce a new lover, and quickly got hooked on exploring all kinds of fantasies in my stories.

I’m here to share with you some of the joys of erotica and to offer you 5 reasons why you might want to include it in your own sex life. And, just to be clear, when I say ‘sex life’ I’m referring to solo sex (masturbating and self-pleasuring) as well as partner sex.

REASON ONE: Turn On

Perhaps the most obvious reason why someone would use erotica is because they wanted to get turned on! You might want to read a story on your own, read one aloud to your lover, or write them your very own fantasy. Writing down your fantasies for your self can also be very hot too.

You want a story that turns you on and gets you in the mood. It may be that all you want to do is feel a surge of sexual excitement. Or perhaps you want to masturbate. Or have sex with your lover.

A good erotic story will help get your juices flowing; a good erotic story will pass the wet test!

 

REASON TWO: Ideas

The 2nd reason for using erotica is that it can help give you ideas – ideas just for enjoying in your own fantasies and also ideas for things you might want to try in real life.  This could be anything from threesomes to strap-on sex, BDSM or sex in the bath.

Just remember that most erotica is written as fiction and not an instruction manual. If you are looking for something more instructional, then a good lesbian sex guide like “The Whole Lesbian Sex Book” by Felice Newman is a good resource to go to.

 

REASON THREE: Try out fantasies

As well as giving you ideas, erotica also gives you a way to experience different fantasies and scenarios and to find out what really appeals and what is just not for you. By paying attention to how you respond physically and emotionally to the stories, you can get a clearer idea of what you might be interested in exploring in real life.

 

REASON FOUR: Language

Erotica can help us find a vocabulary that we want to use: do you prefer pussy or cunt or ladygarden? It gives us words that we can say to our lovers and helps us to find out what words they prefer too.

It can help give us a language for communicating our own desires. And it can help us create our own erotic language.

You might want to write a story for your lover as a way of sharing a fantasy you want to explore with them. Or read a story together and talk about what bits turned you on and whether there’s anything from the story that you might want to try out.

By writing stories for your own pleasure you are literally giving a voice to your desires – and that’s a very empowering thing to do.

 

REASON FIVE: Enjoying your Sexual Self

The final reason – and perhaps the most important – is that erotica gives you a way to enjoy your sexual self and to play with your sexual energy.

Regardless of your relationship status, erotica can be a way to tap into the sexual feelings within you. It can also help if there are things going on that make it hard to feel sexual. For example, if you are feeling stressed, have been ill, or if your libido has plummeted. Reading or writing an erotic story can help you to reconnect with your sexual self.

It’s not just about being ill or having low libido though – Erotica can also be a way to celebrate our sexual selves! And to really enjoy the sexual people we are.

 

Follow Anna on Twitter @ladygarden69 (amazing Twitter handle!)