Monthly Archives: December 2015

Some good news, especially for the girls who like girls!

I have some news to share with you today:

I have recently become Diva’s new Sex/Life editor! This is a  pretty big thing for me. Diva is the only National magazine in the UK for LBQ (lesbian, bi, queer) women and pretty much every girl who likes girls in the UK knows what Diva is.

When I was 14 (1996) my best mate came out to me as bi and I promptly came back out to her as bi! It was such a relief to have somebody I was so close to to feel the same as I did, especially at that age when it wasn’t so easy to come out. Section 28 still existed, the age of consent for gay men was still 18, LGBT people couldn’t get married or civilly partnered, or adopt – there has been a lot of progress since then. And, of course, we were at that awkward age in school. We soon found ‘the only other lesbian’ in our Year and at 16 we started exploring the scene. One of the first things we did was buy Diva. There was a debate at the time in the ‘readers letters’ part about whether there should be posters in the mag so we wrote in supporting it and disclosing our crushes (mine were Kate Winslet and Clare Danes….nothing’s changed there!) and also telling them our little story… and they published it the next month! This was very exciting for us! I hope that my bezzie still has that copy somewhere!

(The next thing we did was buy t-shirts with those classic logos – ‘I can’t even think straight, ‘closets are for clothes, etc…which happened to be when I came out to ma!)

Anyway what I am saying is that Diva is an institution and it is an honour to be their new Sex/Life editor. I hope that you enjoy my articles. The deal is that I write one for the website and one for the mag every month, and there will be plenty that aren’t girl-on-girl specific too. Here is the link to my first article that was published online this weekend. This is for all women. If you want to read the one for the mag, you’ll have to buy it!

I have by now submitted my February pieces to them, it’s fun working in the future!

I’d love to know what you think about the articles. If you have any questions or want to challenge me on anything I say, do get in touch with me on

I would also like to take this opportunity to thank Anna Sansom, the previous Sex/Life editor, for recommending me to the editors of the mag (very glad I went to L Fest this year!)

So, lesbians, have you been thinking of having a sex toy soiree but haven’t got one together yet? Imagine what your friends would say when they find out that it will be held by the Sex/Life editor for Diva!

Click here to enquire about the soirees – I look forward to hearing from you!

Rhi xxx


(Oh, and in case any of you are wondering, no, me and bezzie mate never got together. Ew. We are still the bestest of friends! The ‘other gay girl’ did end up being my first girl kiss though!)

Chance to appear on a new TV Show

If you read my blog, you will know by now that I encourage all of you to open your mind, to learn more about your bodies, about sexual pleasure and experiment with the information you gain. I encourage you to experiment with yourself and with your partner/s if you have one/any, and that age, gender, sexuality and disability shouldn’t hold you back.

Although I respect that this side of your life is allowed to be private, and never ask anybody to share things with me that they don’t want to, you know that I am very happy to encourage discussion. Discussion can help people learn and consider different viewpoints. For those that agree with me and aren’t so ashamed about talking their sex life and are into playing with different things, this shout out is for you:

Award winning production company Clearstory are currently working on a T.V. series for Channel 4. It’s a show that aims to get the people of Britain talking more openly and honestly about their sex lives so that we can be more open and encourage better sex for all.

We are looking for people from all backgrounds, sexual orientations and relationship status’ who aren’t embarrassed about discussing their sexual habits, whether it be what turns them on in the bedroom to something they’ve never tried before and have always wanted to. Whatever it is, we want to hear from them!

We believe that by sharing personal experiences with the nation we can all benefit and have better sex.

I would love to see one of you lovely couples on this programme so if you are interested in appearing on it, contact Claire from Clearstory on

Look forward to seeing you there!

Rhiannon x