Monthly Archives: November 2014

Some great Christmas Present ideas!

Hey everyone,

How is everybody dealing with Black Friday? Some really crazy footage from some shops! I have joined in though and have put a 10% discount in on all of my items. I was going to do it on all the black items just for apt-ness but thought ‘spread the love’ and made all colours and types equal! You still have 7 hours to take advantage of it too – just use the code BLACKFRIDAY at the checkout xx

I wanted to tell you all today that there are plenty of presents to buy from me without raising many blushes! I have created a category this week entitled ‘Cheeky Christmas Gifts’ – click on the pic to see the collection!

In this collection are fun and affordable items, including 6 different items at only £2.99! (Jelly Boobies or Willies, Candy Nipples or Willies and Peppermint Peckers or Nipples!)
I have included board games, all the edibles, flavoured lubes (many of them only £1.20), and the only vibrators I have put in the collection are the gold ones with designs from famous tattooist Lal Hardy –

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and the vibrators that look like make up! So all very light-hearted gifts with a novelty aspect to them. I think the Chocolate Thins are a great present for a classy woman – it is a great tin box with some chocolates in it, then the lady can use the box afterwards to store whatever she wants! http://shop.thatsthespot.co.uk/collections/edible/products/chocolate-thins

I also took the time on Monday night to sort out each product by price so when you are looking for presents and you have a price range in mind, you can look through the categories with this already specified.

Here is the link to the different collections – take advantage of the discount and buy some stuff! Some semi-unique presents, none of which cost more than £24.99. http://shop.thatsthespot.co.uk/collections/

For the men or women that want to get something really special for their women, check out the higher price ranges!

Vlogging and ‘4GirlsOnly’

Hey y’all,

The reason I have posted this a bit late is first of all because I didn’t get to my laptop until 6.45pm and then came across a few technical problems! I have tried vlogging out, and I thought it would be a slightly quicker way to do a blog but ironially, I have taken a while to sort out the vids to appear on the post. I had to upload them from phone to dropbox then download from droppox to computer – then WordPress wouldnt accept such large files, so then I had to upload them to YouTube!

Big apols if I have kept any of you waiting but here are the vids on YouTube x

Do tell me what you think about vlogging, despite my technical problemos! xx

Here are the links to what I am talking about on the vlog – just click on the words:

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Sexist Board Games, as featured in The Apprentice

Last night I was at a networking event and as usual, the nature of my business provoked some fun and interesting reactions! I talked about a new project myself and 2 other associates have just launched – our 4girlsonly night which is an epic pamper-style night (blog about it to follow very soon!)  and as a result we very briefly touched upon the fact that there should be something for the boys and other people discussed what would be there for the boys which had me cringing just a bit because of all the stereotypes! They then asked me if I had watched The Apprentice on Wednesday. I hadn’t but decided to watch it this morning to see what this whole sexist board game was about and OH MY GOD!

They reckoned there weren’t any board games focussed on relationships – it looks like there is a reason for this. When games are about sex and relationships, they are mostly aimed at couples for obvious reasons. When it is turned into a group game, it just becomes a bit of fun and a bit ‘outrageous’ – like truth or dare or pin the cock to the torso, or games that make one have to forfeit. Having looked into this since watching the episode, I have realised that they are right. There aren’t many games like these but they have shown why this is – it generalises, offends and can give the wrong advice.

They spoke with some board game enthusiasts and they all thought it would be sleazy.

The game was called ‘Relationship Guru” and they took it to be tested out on these people and for those who didnt watch it, here is an example of the quesions:

“Women dislike which food the most – Pizza, Carrots or Chicken Salad”

“What do men dislike the most – Vegetables, Waxing or Cricket”

“Women like men to ask them out on a date via – Email, Text or Tweet”

Again – OH MY GOD! I can’t believe they managed to sell any of these games to any board game shops!

I would love to know what you think about this and whether you think there is a way to create a game for a group to play about sex or relationships.

I am going to put some games up on the shop and want to know what you think of them.

The most popular board game for couples is called Monogamy –

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Monogamy Game

The next is a great take on Connect 4 ‘Foreplay in a Row’!

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Foreplay in a Row

The Really Cheeky Adult Board game is the best one I have found for groups and the other one I have included is Seven Deadly Sins.

 

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Seven Deadly Sins

I will be adding the following games to the shop over the weekend:

For the ladies who like ladies, Lesbian Heart

Out of the dozens of couples games there are around, I have also chosen Discover your Lover.

Sexpert is my favourite – educational, which is what I am all about!

So do give me your opinion on this. Still feeling ‘totes awks’ after that Apprentice epsiode!

A Toast to Masters of Sex!

Have any of you been watching Masters Of Sex? The Second Season has just ended and both me and my wife have thoroughly enjoyed it! Looking forward to Season 3 next year. There shall be spoilers in this blog if you haven’t watched it!

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Masters Of Sex is based on the true story of Dr William Masters and Virginia Johnson – real people who, from 1957 researched ‘human sexual response’. I didn’t know much about this research until I watched the programme so I have made sure that I research the facts on them to make sure that I have everything right! As a programme, it has some amazing characters played by bloody great actors (It was a bit weird seeing the respectable, yet sad and mature character of Margaret Sully played by Allison Janney appear on the comedy ‘Mom’ as the hedonistic, recovering addict comedy mother!) Martin Sheen plays the complicated, angry, frustrated yet vulnerable Masters fabulously. Victoria Johnson is played by a lesser known actress Lizzy Caplan (who reminds me of a Croation friend of mine) who is very good at playing assertive, ambitious, independent, yet sexy 50’s single mother. I have just looked at pics of the real Masters and Johnson and the producers have definitely made them sexier in the programme!
As a programme, it feels like a breath of fresh air. It is a programme that takes it’s time – not every episode is all about the plotline progression and it dares to spend some time focussing on the characters and their relationship without it necessarily having an affect on the progress of the story. This does slow it down a bit but I praise it for doing this. It echoes the struggles the 2 protagonists go through and brings out the subtleties of the text. I do know of some people who started watching it but stopped because of the pace, but I would urge you to watch it. It also has some lovely sex scenes too, of course! I find that a lot of dramas nowadays can be quite extreme with the action, violence, drugs and constant cliffhangers. Masters Of Sex gives us a break from a lot of that (although more sex than the usual drama of course!)
Dr Masters was a gynaecologist very good at his job and very well respected in his field. He decided that he wanted to conduct an extensive study on human sexual behaviour. I haven’t found out why, but from what I can see, he didn’t seem to be a pervert of any sort so that is good. The hospital he worked at when he started the study allowed this because he was in such high demand as a gynaecologist. He hired Victoria Johnson as a research assistant to begin with, who in the end, became a research partner. Season 1 and 2 sees his short temper lose him some jobs before he opens up his own clinic and get himself into debt for doing so. It is this clinic where they settled though to carry out their studies exactly as they would like to.
Before Masters and Johnson, there had been a little bit of research conducted into sexual behaviour in the human male and female by Alfred Kinsey in 1948 and 1953, but this was only via interviews with subjects. Dr Masters was the first person to actually observe people having sex and recording the phases they went through – this was epically revolutionary and controversial. The first 145 subjects were prostitutes because these were the only people willing to take part in the study, being the only people open minded enough to do so. The sort of studies they conducted don’t seem to have been re-attempted since either.
They studied 10,000 instances of sex and masturbation. The main thing that these studies found was that, in contrast to good ol’ Freud’s beliefs, woman doesn’t generally orgasm from vaginal penetration only!! They also found that after orgasm, a man goes through a ‘refactory period’ where they are unable to ejaculate again. A woman doesn’t have a refactory period.
These are the four stages of model response:
• Excitement phase (initial arousal)
• Plateau phase (at full arousal, but not yet at orgasm)
• Orgasm
• Resolution phase (after orgasm)

Something that is covered in a lot of depth over the first 2 seasons is the affair between the two (true to life too) and they used a lot of these sessions to continue to study the sexual behaviour (any excuse eh!) where they soon enough admitted to having real feelings for each other.
The second season ended on the day that J F Kennedy was elected – 1960 – and by then they had got to a point where they had started looking into sexual dysfunction. Masters wanted to treat it physically whilst Johnson wanted to look at the psychology behind it. From my research on them, not only have I discovered some major plot spoilers (damnit!) I have also found that their research focussed on homosexuality in the 70’s for a while. Through further research I found that they went through a phase of trying to ‘cure’ homosexuality, which doesn’t make me very happy. Johnson wasn’t too proud of this aspect.

Their studies went on for many years until 1990 and from what I can see, by the end of the second season, they have barely scratched the surface on the progress they have made. There has always been a struggle in being taken seriously from the first episode and this is prevalent every following episode. It is amazing, now, to think that this was even allowed to be done! It cannot be done nowadays in any hospital because of ethics, so it was a very special time. I praise them for continuing to push and for risking their reputations and credibility to do work that they truly believed in. I am not a doctor but I would love to be able to leave some sort of legacy with the work I hope to do with this business. I am also facing a lot of obstacles doing this job – Facebook, Ebay and Amazon are making it particularly hard for me to advertise or sell, I was unable to get a startup loan from the government and I have already jumped through a lot of hoops for other companies too. A lot of us believe we are living in a much more enlightened part of life, but through opening this business up I have come to discover that the world/country may not be as liberated as we like to believe, so I hope to challenge this through education, a little like Masters and Johnson did.

For more information on Masters and Johnson, I would recommend the following links:

http://www.pajiba.com/seriously_random_lists/10-reallife-facts-about-bill-masters-and-virginia-johnson-the-inspiration-for-showtimes-masters-of-sex.php

http://life.time.com/culture/the-real-masters-of-sex-life-with-masters-and-johnson/#1

http://geekypleasures.com/2014/07/6-reasons-why-you-should-be-watching-masters-of-sex/
So this is a blog just to celebrate the work that Masters and Johnson did – thank you for showing proof that most women need clitoral stimulation to be able to orgasm. I know it caused a lot of controversy back then and that the study continued to be stopped by various obstacles but you got there in the end!!

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